April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. There are approximately 8.6 million survivors of sexual violence in California. CalVCP is working to promote awareness about sexual assault and the financial help and services available for survivors. Learn more on http://calvcp.ca.gov.
National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention MonthBy Julie Nauman, VCGCB Executive Officer
It can be hard to relate to statistics; after all, they are just numbers without a face, right? But what happens when that next statistic is your best friend? Your teammate? Your little sister? The closer it hits to home, the easier it is to see that even one victim is too many.
The prevalence of teen dating violence is inexcusable, but the good news about bad statistics is that YOU can change them. Dating violence is not usually a one-time incident, but a pattern of destructive behaviors used to control another person. In that sense, putting an end to teen dating violence is a matter of spotting healthy versus unhealthy relationships, looking out for your peers, and building a culture of respect where abuse is unacceptable.
- Every year, almost 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a boyfriend or girlfriend.1
- That’s one in ten high school students who has been purposefully hit, slapped or physically hurt by a partner.2
- Females are disproportionately affected, with one in four high school girls a victim of physical abuse in their relationships.3
- When including emotional and verbal injury, the rate of dating abuse jumps to one in three teenagers.4
Only 33% of teens who were in an abusive relationship ever told anyone about the abuse, 5 and 81% of parents believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue.6 It’s time to change these attitudes in our schools and communities. As a mother, the thought of any child being hurt by, or inflicting pain on another, is infuriating. We—parents, teachers, coaches, mentors—need to speak out against teen dating violence in order to stop the abuse before it begins. We have a shared responsibility to model healthy relationships founded in respect and equality; to teach our children that love and abuse cannot exist simultaneously and that violence doesn’t equal strength. This February, make your voice heard during National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month.
If you or someone you know has a question about a relationship, visit loveisrespect.org or text “loveis” to 22522. For additional resources, visit http://www.teendvmonth.org.
EVERYONE, men & women, deserves to have this feeling; this feeling of being appreciated, respected, and most of all, valued.
A Hmong #DomesticViolence survivor and advocate shares#inspiration on CalVCP’s Blog: http://calvcp.blogspot.com/2014/01/changing-cultural-attitudes-on-domestic.html
This time of year, supportive moms (and dads, sisters, brothers, grandparents, and friends) gather to send holiday messages to all LGBTQ folks who are without family support and who would like a “stand-in Holiday family.” Knowing that not every family is ready to accept their own LGBTQ family member exactly as-is (as hard as this is for us to imagine), yourholidaymom has extended their love.
We love the idea of helping to support people through the holidays when their families aren’t prepared to do the same. Along those same lines, there are lots of reasons that the holidays can be a really difficult time for people—including, if you’re in an unhealthy relationship, have recently left an abusive one, or can’t go home for the holidays because of your partner. If you need to talk, please know that loveisrespect is available 24/7.